Tuesday, May 27, 2008

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Stop Attracting The Wrong Men



Tired of being single and not having the kind
of love in your life you know is possible?

How would you like to hear about the quickest
and easiest way to meet a great guy, know that
he's truly good "relationship material" for you,
and start a new relationship that could end up
being the one that lasts forever?

If you're looking to finally find the right kind
of man, while at the same time making sure you
end your own pattern of wasting your time with
all the wrong guys... then it's time you made
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Hey Funke adeniyi - I'm going to throw out a few
situations that come up with men that you might
be wondering how to handle.

Then I'm going to show you what to do in
these situations.

Let's get started...

Here are some of the most common questions,
statements, and scenarios that women I've talked
to and helped in my seminars and programs talk
about...

See if you identify with any of these:

-"I don't have a problem meeting men, but I
seem to attract all the WRONG GUYS. Why is this?"

-"I've been hurt before, and I don't feel like
getting back out there and dating again. How do
I get myself to a place where I can open up to
a man again and go about this?"

-"I'd love to be with a great guy and enjoy a
close and loving relationship... but there don't
seem to be any good single guys around. Where can
I meet a genuinely good guy?"

-"The moment I finally do see or meet a great
guy, I get nervous and uncertain and I don't
really know what to do or say to get his
attention and interest. What should I do, and
how do I know if a guy is interested?"

-"I've heard that other women have met their
boyfriends or husbands online, but online dating
is not for me." Or... "I tried online dating and
it didn't work for me."

Let's get right to the first scenario and
the question that goes along with it-

Scenario #1:

"I don't have a problem meeting men, but I
seem to attract all the WRONG GUYS. Why is this?"

If I had a nickel for every time a woman
shared this experience with me... then I'd be
VERY well off.

The fascinating part is that almost every
woman who shares this experience seems to believe
she's one of the only "unlucky" women around
who has this problem.

Meanwhile... TONS of other women have this
exact same problem of dating all the "wrong
men."

What's going on here?

Let's break the situation down and take a
closer look.

I'll start from the very beginning...

You meet a guy, you feel a strong level of
chemistry and connection for him, and you get
involved with him.

Then comes your first mistake-

Only AFTER THE FACT, once you've already
become sexual and intimate with him, do you
start to find out who he REALLY IS and what
he REALLY WANTS-

He wants his "freedom."

Or...

He's not looking for a "serious relationship"
right now.

Or...

"It's not you, it's him. He's just not ready."

Of course, hearing this AFTER you've already
spent time with a man, become intimate, and grown
more and more ATTACHED to him is a total WHACK
upside the head for you.

I'm betting at least one of these reasons a
man can give for NOT wanting to be with you
sounds strangely familiar.

If you've had this happen to you with a man,
and perhaps had it happen more than once... the
question is how come this kind of thing is so
common with men?

How come a man will PULL AWAY even when you
really hit it off and there's a great relationship
right in front of you both?

And why do so many men so often use these same
"excuses"?

Is it because men really and truly are
AFRAID OF RELATIONSHIPS?

Or is there something else going on?

Something a little deeper than a man suddenly
pulling away out of fear, or for no good reason
at all.

I'm going to suggest to you that there is
in fact something else going on at a deeper level.

The best place to start is to address the
idea or belief that way too many men are afraid
of relationships.

I have a very different perspective on this
than you might have heard before.

I DON'T believe that men are afraid of real
relationships.

Not at all.

I believe that men simply don't care much
about relationships until they feel and experience
that intense flood of EMOTIONS that takes over
their body and mind.

And that flood of feelings and emotions that
takes over a man's thoughts and desires, and is
capable of literally causing a man to do a
complete 180 degree turn away from his prior
wants and beliefs, is commonly referred to as
ATTRACTION.

Of course, when I'm talking about this kind
of powerful and transformative force... I'm not
just talking about your run of the mill "Physical
Attraction."

A man can experience that 3 times a day
simply by laying eyes on a woman.

This kind of Physical Attraction has very
little to do with WHY a man will want a REAL
RELATIONSHIP with a woman (although it is also a
necessary component).

In other words, there's something else a man
must experience with a woman that goes DEEPER
than just that PHYSICAL ATTRACTION.

And if you don't know what this other thing
is, how it works, and how to create it inside a
man once you're getting to know each other and
"dating"... then it's going to be VERY DIFFICULT
for a close, loving, and lasting relationship to
come together.

To put it bluntly, without this "other level
of attraction"... a man just isn't going to feel
it for you in a way that will have him pursuing
you for more and wanting to get even closer to
you.

Instead, he'll simply be satisfied with
spending time here and there with you on a
"casual" basis... and he won't have much interest
or desire to get much closer to you in love and
a relationship.

This is how a man works.

If he doesn't FEEL IT with you... then no
amount of TALKING to him about opening up or
COMMITTMENT is going to move things along.

In fact, if you try and talk your way into
a relationship with a man "logically"... odds
are it's going to completely BACKFIRE and he's
going to become increasingly DISTANT and
eventually pull away altogether.

You've seen this happen before.

Don't keep making the same mistake so many
other women make trying to CONVINCE a man to
engage in a relationship... when the only way
a man truly gets involved and STAYS with a woman
is when the emotional experiences he's having
with a woman (the deeper attraction) tells him
that this is the one woman for him.

Luckily, if you don't have the right man in
your life right now, and you don't know how
this "other attraction" works, I've got some
very GOOD NEWS...

I've taken the time to put together an entire
in-depth program that shows you what this "other"
deeper and more intense and lasting attraction
is... and I show you exactly how it works and
how to create it with the man in your life.

You can learn all about that "other attraction"
that will keep a man both physically AND
emotionally bonded to you and get free tips on
how this works right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA





And if you're single and just starting off
with "dating" and meeting new men... it's a
whole different situation than when you're
already with a man and you want to take the
attraction and connection between you to the
next level.

In that case, you need to know how to find,
identify, and capture the RIGHT MAN'S attention
and interest... and then you need to know how
the dating process works with a man.

Once you learn all this, moving from first
meeting to the first few dates to a growing
and thriving relationship becomes easy... as
you know all the steps along the way and can
easily move from one to the next with the man
in your life.

Don't let the common "traps" that other women
fall into with dating get in your way.

For the ultimate guide to meeting a great
guy and getting things started off right, and
to get to the very bottom of the things that
keep getting in your way of creating a truly
loving and lasting relationship from the start...
you need to check out my "Meeting The One"
program.

In the letter I've written with all the
details and samples from this program, I share
the single most important thing you need to
know as a single woman dating a man that will
INSTANTLY TURN OFF the right man and cause him
to suddenly pull away.

If you don't know what this is, and why so
many women make this same mistake, then you're
bound to keep messing things up and pushing the
man who could be the right one for you away.

Go to the link below to learn this, along
with exactly what it is you can say and do that
will quickly have a man knowing you're "the one"
for him and carrying your relationship forward
in a fun and easy way for you.

Don't wait. Go here now:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne





Oh... and if you're single and having
a hard time meeting good guys...

Then I want to share with you the absolute
quickest and easiest way to find a great guy,
make sure he's true "relationship material",
and start to connect with him on a deeper level
right away.

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http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FindingLoveOnline





Ok, back to it.

Are men really afraid of relationships?

I'll give it to you straight:

I don't believe that men are inherently
afraid of or resistant to "real relationships"-
even though I'm sure you have your own "proof"
to the contrary.

Here's how I know I'm right...

How many times have you known a man who was
a friend, or dated a man, who was intent on
staying single... and even shunned what could have
been a great relationship with an amazing woman
just because he didn't want a "serious
relationship"?

But then, just a few weeks or months later,
that man met another woman. And within just a
few weeks with this new woman he was COMPLETELY
SPRUNG and head over heels for her... and he
was BEGGING HER for a committed relationship?

Fascinating...

If you're like most women, then you've seen
several men you know do this "instant switch"
thing where all of a sudden they want a serious
relationship... when all they could talk about
before was being "on their own."

Here's the reality...

Most men are never "ready" for a relationship.

It's not until they FEEL the magical feelings
and experiences with a woman that tell them that
"Hey, this is the woman for me" do most men want
a relationship.

To make a long story short... love and a
LASTING RELATIONSHIP are very rarely DECISIONS
that a man makes or plans for.

Love and a lasting relationship is something
that a man discovers when a woman affects him
in a deep, intense, emotional way to where he
literally makes a "shift"... and his old conscious
and "logical" thoughts of wanting to wait are
simply overcome with his DESIRE.

It's amazing how people (and men) really
work.

And it's even wilder that no one ever stopped
to tell us these things about human nature.

Now, you might be asking yourself... "How
does this all relate to the initial question
of how come so many women choose the wrong men?"

Here's how...

Just like a man, when a woman FEELS that
intense physical AND emotional connection with
a man... she's often carried away by it.

And when this happens, something fascinating
takes place inside the minds and bodies of most
women...

They start to believe that the CONNECTION
they feel with a man is in and of itself PROOF
that this is a "special" situation that is going
to become a deeper relationship... and that the
man must be sharing these same feelings.

When the truth is that, to a man, the
CONNECTION that they feel with a woman early on
can have nothing to do with whether or not they
want a RELATIONSHIP with a woman.

A man who DOESN'T yet feel like he wants a
relationship with a woman can do the following:

-Call a woman, spend time with her, and get
physically and sexually involved with her

-Compliment her, tell her she's beautiful,
and buy her gifts or bring her flowers

-Spend time with her over a period of weeks or
months and still think of things as "casually
dating" with no commitment or "relationship"

What I'm getting at here is that there's
a DANGER in "dating" if you don't understand
how men think and behave when it comes to dating
and what constitutes a "relationship" to a man.

I call this "The Danger Of A Connection."

It's because of the connection that you
feel with a man, you mistakenly believe and
start acting as though he's interested in a
more serious relationship, when he's not there
yet in his mind.

(By the way - this is one of the quickest
ways to make a man PULL AWAY and kill the
ATTRACTION he might have been feeling for you
and stop what you had growing between you dead
in it's tracks.)

I can't tell you how many women meet a great
guy, feel that spark, spend time with a man and
share affection... and then totally MISUNDERSTAND
his desire for a relationship because they become
convinced that he must share the same feelings
they have.

And this is the number one complaint I hear
from great women - that they meet a great guy,
hit it off, they get close and intimate, and then
the guy backs off and they think-

"Argggh! Why do I always pick these same
loser commitment-phobes!?!"

If you're reading this right now and thinking,
"I can TOTALLY relate to this"... I want to help
you quickly turn things around.

To put an end to the Ups-and-Downs of
dating, and to finally have the amazing love
life you want and deserve, I've put together
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not only learn to get to THE ROOT of this
problem when dating and connecting with men and
having them PULL AWAY or turn out to be anything
but the right guy for you.

Dating doesn't have to be filled with "games,"
uncertainty, or even "drama"... if you know how
a man thinks and what to do to truly connect with
a man on a deep level and start the kind of real
relationship you want.

It would be great if you could simply skip
the dating process and dive right into a safe
and secure loving relationship.

I would want that for you...

But that's not how things start off.

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Now, since we both probably don't have much
more time right now to cover the other scenarios
from above... I'll give you a little shortcut or
"cheat-sheet."

Scenario #2:

-"I've been hurt before, and I don't feel like
getting back out there and dating again. How do
I get myself to a place where I can open up to
a man again and go about this?"

The short answer is to get back in touch with
that strong, loving, feminine, beautiful woman
who's already inside you... but who's having a
tough time shining through right now.

To get back to that natural "essence" inside
you that will draw not just any man to you, but
the RIGHT MAN for you... and quickly attract him
to you from the inside out, I recommend you read
this:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/ReadyForLove





Scenario #3:

-"I'd love to be with a great guy and enjoy a
close and loving relationship... but there don't
seem to be any good single guys around. Where can
I meet a genuinely good guy?"

Here is the simplest place to meet a great
guy and find out more about him in the first
few moments of contact that most other women
find out over months of dating:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FindingLoveOnline





Scenario #4:

-"The moment I finally do see or meet a great
guy, I get nervous and uncertain and I don't
really know what to do or say to get his
attention and interest. What should I do, and
how do I know if a guy is interested?"

Easy. You need to know what it is you can
say and do that will CREATE ATTRACTION with a
man - even from the first moment.

I show you exactly what it is that ATTRACTS
a man from the first "Hello" right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne





Scenario #5:

-"I've heard that other women have met their
boyfriends or husbands online, but online dating
is not for me." Or... "I tried online dating and
it didn't work for me."

I've taken the time to put together an
entire guide to online dating.

It shows you not only an easy step-by-step
to write the kind of PROFILE that will both
attract the right men and screen out all the
wrong ones online... but it will quickly have
the right men contacting YOU and wanting your
time and attention - for the right reasons.

I also show you exactly how to build on the
connection once you find an interesting guy
online... and how to move from email, to talking,
to your first date and beyond in a fun and
easy way that almost guarantees you'll have the
kind of experience with a man you're looking for.

It's all right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FindingLoveOnline





I'll talk to you again soon, and best of
luck in Life and Love.


Your Friend,

phill






http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/Catalog

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